Friday, July 23, 2010


An amazing woman on Fertility Friend posted this, she got it from someone else...I absolutely love it!!!

The Case for Siblings
Why having a new baby is good for your other kids

by Simcha Fisher in Family on Tuesday, July 20, 2010 6:00 AM

One of the best parts of being pregnant with my eighth child was that I never woke up in the middle of the night, panicking: “How can I do this to [current youngest child]?”

True, I woke up for a thousand other reasons, most of them involving my internal organs. But it was a huge relief to finally realize that having a new baby is not bad for the current baby.

How I used to fret about this. The whole nine months, I would worry about how we would all get along, how the soon-to-be-supplanted youngest would adapt, and even whether I could love the new baby as much as I loved my firstborn. (I did.)

But everyone else seems to think that a new baby is bad for the other kids. Dozens of times, I’ve had strangers peer around my enormous belly to coo at the toddler, “Aww ... now you won’t get to be the baby anymore.”

Thanks, lady. Thanks for informing my child that she’s suffering. Luckily, she doesn’t know what you’re talking about—and neither do you.

Here is what really happens when we have a new baby at our house:

First are the immediate benefits: my mother reads them books until she goes hoarse. My husband fills the house with steak and ice cream and and blurts out things like, “Pick out any toy you want, kids!”

Then they get to visit me at the hospital, which has an elevator, and the nurses stuff them with popsicles and muffins, and everyone raves over how well-behaved they are.

Of course it’s not all sunshine and buttercups. With childbirth, I magically transform from a third trimester exhausted zombie into—ta dah!—a postpartum exhausted zombie. Instead of having no lap to sit on, I have an extremely tender abdomen, and I’m constantly nursing the infant who DOESN’T WANT YOU TO SIT ON HER, OH MY GOSH, GET OFF, GET OFF!

Still, everyone loves the new baby, everyone is amazed and enchanted, and they all want to help. The girls want to pet her, and the boys want to guard and protect her. (If that’s a sexist statement, then life is sexist, because that’s what happens.)

“Look at her little tiny feet, feel her silky hair! Ohh, Mama, I can feel her heart beating on the top of her head.”

Then follows the second week, when the toddler suddenly realizes that the baby is ... staying. In this week, everyone is crying, everyone has a rash, everything we own is wet and smelly, and if I had the mental wherewithal, I would be able to form a complete thought such as, “Another baby? What were we thinking?”

This stage lasts for about five weeks, actually.

But then the 6-week marks comes. At six weeks, no one can remember life before baby. She smiles, she’s trying to figure out how to laugh, her belly button is no longer scary, and she clearly likes us. The older kids can hold her while I shower, and the younger ones have figured out how to sit next to the baby without sitting on the baby, so we can all read Katy No-Pockets together for the 923rd time.

Yes, sometimes they feel left out or envious. But more often, they fight over who gets to hold her. The middle kids discover that they can be allies, rather than rivals. The youngest one relinquishes Family Baby status with visible relief, and starts to pursue a more exciting goal: being one of the gang. She generally has a language explosion a few weeks after the new baby is born. And if you want to see a proud, pleased and confident toddler, tell her, “Uh-oh, the baby is crying!” and watch her pop a pacifier in the baby’s mouth. Hero!

And she still gets to be a baby—just not the baby. I still rock her and sing “Baby Beluga.” Or one of the older kids will rock her and sing “Baby Beluga,” and that’s good, too. Because one day, I won’t be here, and the kids will only have each other. They are getting used to caring for each other, and care engenders love.

My seven siblings and I email regularly, visit when we can, pray for each other, nudge each other to go to the doctor, recommend books and movies, proofread each other’s writing, understand each other’s sense of humor, and share the same childhood memories, good and bad.

A woman once told me that she’d decided not to have a second child, because she “couldn’t do that” to her son. Couldn’t do what? Live? Love someone, and be loved? My parents gave me seven allies in a hard world. Change and loss will happen anyway—better to have the good company of brothers and sisters when it happens to you.

Thursday, July 15, 2010

Missin' my boys

The boys went camping with Joe and Helen for the weekend. They left this morning and won't be back until Sunday. Now, I know they're gonna have a blast....but it's SO hard for me to let them go 30 mins away from me for that long! I just worry that they'll get hurt or GOD FORBID I'll never see them again......I know that's harsh, but hey, it's reality. It's how I feel. I'm so scared of something happening.....

They were totally excited to be going fishing, swimming, having a campfire, etc. etc. That's all they talked about all week!

So, while they're gone, Tyler and I will have a yard sale again. Hopefully we can make some money this time...we didn't do all that great last time.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

Daisy Jayde Ballard

Is almost 2 months old! I can't believe it...she's getting so big, so fast! She's smiling all kinds now. She holds her head up so well....she's very strong! I can't wait for her to use her jumper, she's gonna love it!

She weighs 12.2 lbs!! My little chunka monka! Wooohoo! She may have started off small, but she's definetly catching up! 0-3 months fit her great now. I'm thinking she may be short, though...cause they're still kinda long on her.

Her belly button is still herniated. It looks funky, but doesn't seem to bother her a bit. It's still nice and soft, so no reason to worry for now.

She's in size 1 diapers, but I have a feeling we'll be moving into 2's in the next few weeks!

Taryn and Peyton are still totally in love with Daisy. They just can't seem to get enough of her :) Taryn's favorite thing to do is tell me every time she smiles at him. Peyton's always on binky control. He can find one in 2 seconds flat! Daddy is still in awe. I don't think he quite realizes he has a daughter. He always tells me how pretty she is and to "look at her eyes".

Daisy is a hungry little shit! She eats ALL.THE.TIME! I swear she's attached to my boob all day. I've started dieting and working out, so I'm taking Fenugreek to (hopefully) keep my supply up. So, we both get to smell like maple syrup!

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Ahem, Mother Nature...

In case you forgot....It's JULY! Quit with the rain already! MUST HAVE SUNSHINE!

It's hard to entertain two little boys when it's raining outside! Needless to say, we've been drawing, coloring, playing video games and board games A LOT.

Tyler's sister, Kelli came to visit last week. The boys were super excited that she came. So were we. I know Tyler was happy his sister wanted to hang out with him. He missed her as much as we did! We showed her around Branson and Berryville a little bit...couldn't do much this visit, because Tyler had to work, though. Next time will be more fun (I promise!).

Daisy is getting so big! She smiles all the time now. She's started giggling, which I adore! The boys can't get enough of her..I love it.

Tomorrow Tyler and I are starting Weight Watchers and P90X. Ugh. I'm SO not excited. We weighed in tonight and I'm at 180 and Tyler is at 282. Yucko! Hopefully p90x will kick our butts and we can get back into shape! Wish us luck, lol!

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

"Roll the Stone Away......

....It's Independence Day."

Well it's not anymore, but Saturday it was! LOL

We had a good 4th. At least I thought it was. Jessie, Kai, Anthony, and Jojo came and ate hot dogs and watched the fireworks with us. And Kelli is in town to visit.
The show wasn't the greatest, but it was still fun!

The kids had a blast. They played with sparklers and poppers and ate and hung out!

Our babies

Our babies
May 2013